Em Efil dna Em Thguoht

Long have me not returned.  An important lesson to be kept as reminder.

“Constant fighting in a relationship isn’t healthy, you’ve got to take a look at my ways to stop fighting in a relationship so you can really get back to enjoying each other! Remember, fights are typically caused by misunderstandings and underlying issues! Everyone in the world has flaws, some of the flaws are things that you’ve got to deal with, some of the flaws are things that you need to accept. This is where accepting each other for who you are comes in handy. Every fight in the world has a root at the end of it. Once you figure out exactly what the root of the problem is, you’ll be able to solve the problem and also solve the fight. It’s not going to be easy, but it is going to be worth it. Is This a Repeat Performance?

I know that issues come up, but do you constantly have the same fight? Over and over again? Do you think that could be a sign? If you are constantly having a fight that revolves around a certain thing that your spouse does, why not bring it up to them calmly to stop the fight? Finally, you always want to keep in mind that your relationship is very important and that you two are together for a reason. It’s hard to keep that in mind when you are fighting, but it’s so important.”

Hoping…

cold… another period of chill.

many things aren’t going smoothly.

hibernate through and awaken when spring arrives.

To me, generosity is not so much about how you give but the spirit with which you give, the way you move through the world. Many of us are taught to be generous with our good fortune: our financial resources, our talents, our time. What about when it’s more difficult to be generous? Are you generous during conflict? in rush hour traffic? when you’re anxious or overwhelmed? Are you generous when you feel the world has not been generous to you?

Generous With Your Word – During stressful times – family changes, decreased income increased bills, health challenges – it can be easy to allow stress to change how you communicate with others. When reacting to a tough situation, think about how you would respond. Will you be generous with your word choice? Will you ask if you can work together to resolve the situation? How would you want to be approached when it comes to someone being generous with their word with you? Generosity is much more than money.

Generous With Your Spirit – More important than the cheques we write is connecting with ourselves to see if we have been generous with our spirit. Someone once wisely asked: it’s easy to measure generosity with our money we contribute, how do you know if you’re generous with your spirit? For me generosity of spirit is what Gandhi calls that “still small voice”. It’s when you know you have the opportunity to take the higher road and you can take it. When you know you could be “right” and instead you choose kind. When instead of seeking to be understood you seek to understand. When loving others includes everyone even those folks you don’t like so much. This practice I find remarkably more challenging than giving money. What I have found is this: when I am generous with my spirit, things become easier and money flows more readily.  When I am not, areas in my life get stuck, including money.

Generous With Your Listening Heart – This coming week, make a conscious decision to listen. No matter the temptation to interject your opinion, prep yourself for the great comeback, or dispense advice, be liberal with your listening. If you are listening and not waiting to be heard, what might you hear that can actually benefit you? This may be the tool you need to integrate to truly understand the thinking, hopes and motivations of the one you are speaking to. This also helps to develop your skill of listening to what the deepest needs are to the activities or projects you are involved in and supporting. Be generous with your listening heart and watch what begins to transform. And remember, generosity takes practice.